Using Positive Affirmations To Bring Upon A Better Quality Of Life

Affirmations are simple statements that we make, positive or negative. They may be made on purpose like when we do to change some aspect of our life. They may also be made automatically like when we tell ourselves "Oh, this is frightening", when we see a roach in the kitchen. What is fascinating about them is that the more we use them, the more our behavior becomes like them! The principle behind the working is similar to that of drops of water falling on a rock. A few drops will not make any difference to the rock but if the drops fall continuously, then, over a period of time, the rock will be worn out.

How affirmations work:

We go through our life according to our beliefs. For example, we know it and hence it is our belief that if we touch anything hot, it will cause burns. Hence we don't touch hot things with our bare hands. However, the belief system of small children is not yet formed. Hence, they do not know the difference between hot and cold and are likely to touch hot things with their bare hands. (hence we have to take greater care of small children than grown up children).If they get burns on their hand, or, alternately if they are told repeatedly that touching hot things is bad, then their belief system forms and they will avoid touching hot things. This is an example of affirmations at work.

All our beliefs are stored in the subconscious mind. So, if you find that you are unable to make lots of money, or, you make money but are unable to hold on to it, it may be due to such beliefs held in the subconscious mind as "I do not deserve to be prosperous" or "Money is bad", etc. In order to change our beliefs, we have to operate at the level of the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind is like your computer. It takes an input, processes it and gives an output. It does not think by itself. It does not distinguish between good and bad. If we put garbage in a computer we get garbage as output. (Hence the phrase GIGO which means Garbage In, Garbage Out). That is why your mother told you to keep good company and avoid bad company. In good company you hear good and positive thoughts, see good actions being performed, good deeds being done. By constantly being in good company these good things get impressed on your subconscious mind and, in turn, your thoughts and actions also turn out to be good. That is why Napoleon Hill says, "If you want to be rich, be in the company of rich men". Also, it is a known fact that your income tends to be the average of the incomes of the ten people with whom you associate yourself the most.

So, in order to change your beliefs and create a new reality, you have to bombard your subconscious mind with thoughts of your desire. However, these thoughts have to be worded carefully, otherwise the results may not be as expected. Hence, there are certain dos and don'ts to be followed for optimum use of affirmations. 

 Use the present tense. Do not use the future tense. If you say, "I will be rich", your being rich will forever be in the future! The subconscious mind tries to literally bring about what it is asked to do. Hence say "I am rich" or "I choose to be rich". According to some psychologists, the term "choose" is better as then, being rich becomes your choice. And anyway, isn't it true that your present life is the result of the choices you have made in the past?

 Be POSITIVE. Only positive statements work. It seems the subconscious mind is incapable of dealing in negatives. So, if you say "I am not fat", then when the statement reaches the subconscious mind, the term "not" is ignored and it becomes "I am fat"!

Affirmations can either be spoken or be written down. When speaking, repeat them emphatically, preferably throughout the day. The least you can do is repeat them at least twenty times in the morning just when you get up and twenty times in the evening just before you go to sleep. Another great way is to write them down at least fifteen times daily. Writing is a faster way of impressing your subconscious mind. Napoleon Hill, in his legendary book "Think and Grow Rich" suggests the card method which is highly effective. Write down your affirmation or a picture of your desire (car, house, etc.) on a 3" x 5" card and keep it in your pocket. Throughout the day, whenever you get the chance, remove the card, look at it or read it and keep it back. Do this several times a day. Then there is also the famous "mirror technique" given below.
 Repetition. In order to bring about significant changes in your life, affirmations have to be done several times a day till such time that they become a reality. If you do them for a few days only, the expected results may not come. Be bull doggish about them, i.e. continue doing them till your goals are accomplished. The story is told of two neighboring villages A and B which always faced water shortage. Village A then learnt of a rain dance which they performed and duly received rains. Seeing this, village B also performed the rain dance but did not get any rains. They did this several times but still no rains. Ultimately, the chief of village B approached the chief of village A and asked for help. The chief of village A replied, "We do the rain dance till we get the rains." Ditto for affirmations. Do them till you get your desired results.

Borrowed from: Self Help and Developement